Adolescence is a time of transformation and discovery that can be challenging for both parents and children. Recently, we had a conversation with a mother who was concerned about her teenage son's behaviour. Although he is not failing in school, his attitude in class has led to frequent admonishments. This is a crucial time when patience and understanding are essential.

Exploring new horizons

This mother's son is in a phase of exploration and self-discovery. Recently, during a family dinner, he remarked that he would like to be an astronaut ‘to see the Earth from space and feel free’. This anecdote reflects the curiosity and search for purpose typical of adolescence. It is a time when young people begin to dream and imagine their future.

Communication as a pillar

Since limiting their mobile phone use, children have started to interact more with their parents. This situation highlights the importance of open and honest communication. Technology can be a distraction, but it can also be a tool that, when used appropriately, can foster dialogue and connection. It is essential to take advantage of these moments to listen and understand our children's concerns and aspirations.

Trust and patience

We remind the mother that we have all been through this stage and that, although it can be difficult, it is a necessary phase of growth and development. Adolescence is a period of change and adaptation, and it is normal for young people to experiment with different behaviours and attitudes. The key is to remain confident and patient. Adolescence at thirteen is more manageable than at forty-five.

Setting achievable goals

We suggested that you negotiate with your child and set achievable, short-term goals. This will help him to see that he can make up for lost gains and to understand that freedom comes at a cost, but that it is within his power to exercise it. Authority should not be confused with authoritarianism. It is important for adolescents to see that we are here to support and guide them, not to impose our will.

The role of parents

Adolescence is a time when the certainties of childhood crumble and young people begin to question everything around them. As parents, our role is to be present, to listen and guide without judging. We must show them that, although they are changing, our love and support are constant. Looking them in the eye and reflecting that love is crucial for them to feel acknowledged and valued.

Conclusion

Adolescence is a complex time but also full of opportunities for growth and learning. As parents, we must be prepared to accompany our children on this journey, offering our unconditional support and reminding them that we will always be there for them. With patience, understanding and love, we can help them navigate the challenges of adolescence and become confident and responsible adults.

Remember: Adolescence is a time of transition for both parents and children. It is a time when the certainties of childhood fade away and young people seek new answers. Don't stop looking into their eyes; in their reflection they will see the love in which they will always recognise themselves.